[EPUB] ✹ The Dangerous Art of Blending In Author Angelo Surmelis – Uroturk.info
I desperately wanted to love this book and I m actually wondering if 3 stars is too high of a rating First off major trigger warnings for physical and mental abuse as well as homophobia I couldn t connect with Evan He seems like a good guy in a shitty situation, but it felt like I never actually got to know him I hated Evan s mom and his dad isn t any better as he just lets it happen As much as I wanted to love the romance part of things, it was very dramatic and over the top Plot wise, it was a rollercoaster of nothing I was on edge because I was expecting a horrible beating every time I turned the page It s basically a slice of time where nothing happens except abuse All sorts of people know Evan is getting abused and no one does anything Literally no one helps Lastly, I seriously struggled with the rhythm of the story Everything was I did this and then this and then this happened before I did this It got old reaaaaalllly quick Overall, it had a lot of promise and judging by the high reviews, I m in the minority Obviously this book just wasn t for me Huge thanks to Balzer Bray for providing the arc free of charge This book was heartbreakingly sad and the authors note just broke me It s about parental abuse, coming out and finding your voice in a harsh and judgmental world Also this is a ownvoices novel However, I didn t like how Henry kept saying I ll be the one to help you I want to be the one you trust Yikes I really didn t feel their romance either There s a lot of consent issues Henry kissed Ev without permission when he told Henry THAT HE WAS SCARED AND NOT SURE.Overall, it s an okay book and I liked it minus the unhealthy romance Also, those descriptions of the Greek food got me hungry, yum.3.5 stars. Seventeen Year Old Evan Panos Doesn T Know Where He Fits In His Strict Greek Mother Refuses To See Him As Anything But A Disappointment His Quiet, Workaholic Father Is A Staunch Believer In Avoiding Any Kind Of Conflict And His Best Friend Henry Has Somehow Become Distractingly Attractive Over The Summer Tired, Isolated, Scared Evan S Only Escape Is Drawing In An Abandoned Church That Feels As Lonely As He Is And, Yes, He Kissed One Guy Over The Summer But It S His Best Friend Henry Who S Now Proving To Be Irresistible It S Henry Who Suddenly Seems Interested In Being Than Friends And It S Henry Who Makes Him Believe That He S Than His Mother S Harsh Words And Terrifying Abuse But As Things With Henry Heat Up, And His Mother S Abuse Escalates, Evan Has To Decide How To Find His Voice In A World Where He Has Survived So Long By Avoiding Attention At All Costs Here s the deal about never being authentically loved by your parents The most fucked up gesture or morsel of compassion is like a warm blanket I haven t made my mind up completely about this book One the one hand, it is a truthful and painful novel that makes it hard for you to swallow On the other hand, it feels like big chunks of characterisation and plot were missing Let me try to elaborate Evan grows up in a strict and religious household His mother abuses him mentally and physically She tells him he is ugly and worthless because he is gay And those are the nice things that come out of her mouth She beats him, throws objects at him and has done so ever since he was a little child She says she does those things because she loves him.Evan s father is loving and dedicated to his family He tries to protect Evan where he can but he still doesn t do enough.Here come the spoilers, so stop reading here if you do not want to know A relationship that I do not understand at all is Evan s and Jeremy s friendship Throughout the book, Jeremy is a dick What is worse, he becomes an outright bully and traitor And now I don t get Evan s reaction and thought process about this break of trust, or rather the lack thereof Jeremy is easily forgiven This passiveness and apathy bother me about Evan When he finds out that he told his whole school that he is gay and in love with his best friend he had a blackout and can t remember this situation but later sees a video of it he doesn t even give it much thought Honestly, this would have made me break down and cry and hide for days on end But Evan hardly gives it a second thought You could argue that this shows how people react differently to certain situations, but to me, it felt like this and a few other scenes weren t given enough thought.What also bothers me is that Evan s vicious and violent mother doesn t suffer any consequences for all the harm she did him I wondered where Evan s anger was about all the death threats and scars he had suffered from her I wondered how Evan s best friend found out about this abuse but also lacked a reaction that was forceful than a simple You know I want to kill her, right.Evan was so helpless and alone and what I wished for him and for the teens that might read this book and relate to him was a solution In the end, Evan turned 18 and moved out But why did no adult ever help him Why did his best friend not even suggest going to the police Why were no alternative solutions brought up Anyway, I m glad to add another Own Voices author to my list and want to celebrate that there are and queer authors out there who are given an opportunity to have their voices heard And I m intrigued to find out what else Angelo Surmelis might be writing in future.Find of my books on Instagram Favorite book of 2018 Esse um livro sobre abuso dom stico psicol gico e f sico , que conta a hist ria de um menino gay tendo que lidar com a constante rejei o de sua m e.Sendo infelizmente um homem que passou por isso, desde a inadequa o dentro de casa por causa dos conflitos religiosos at a agress o f sica, esse um t pico que geralmente me deixa dividido Porque, por mais que eu ache extremamente importante que a literatura YA aborde temas assim, eu sempre acabo sendo lembrado de situa es que eu vivi que achei que j tinha superado e, guess what , n o superei.Em The Dangerous Art of Blending In isso tudo foi elevado maior das pot ncias porque eu acho que nunca vi tanto da minha hist ria em um protagonista como vi no Evan Desde os pequenos questionamentos que ele tem no dia a dia at coisas extremamente espec ficas como a maneira como a m e dele descobre sobre sua sexualidade por causa dos seus di rios.O livro angustiante, traz poucas cenas onde o leitor consegue respirar aliviado e despertou em mim uma raiva constante de todos que fizeram mal para o Evan Mas essa uma hist ria sobre um sobrevivente a hist ria de um garoto que odeia a pr pria vida mas ainda assim luta por ela Independente dos motivos, Evan quer sobreviver e a maneira como o autor coloca esse desejo desesperador na escrita muito bonita.Muitos dos temas abordados aqui conversam com parte do que eu estou escrevendo em Piratas Gays t tulo provis rio do meu pr ximo livro e eu encontrei aqui muita coragem para continuar contando essa hist ria porque n o est sendo f cil tirar ela de dentro de mim , e a leitura de TDAOBI n o poderia ter vindo em um momento melhor.Eu terminei a leitura me acabando de chorar mas era um choro bom Um choro que me fez perceber tudo que eu passei para estar vivo hoje Para olhar o ponto em que a minha vida chegou e acreditar que est tudo bem. Such a beautiful book My full review will be up on my booktube channel at Many thanks to HarperTeen for sending me a copy in exchange for an honest reviewI both loved and hated this I think that this type of story needs to be shared so as to stop others like it from happening That said, it always breaks my heart to see young people, albeit fictional people, being abused and harmed in this way I just wanted to step in and brutally murder Evan s mom Justifiable homocide is a thing, right and send him off to his own gay palace All in all, this book broke my heart and then mended it just to break it again Goodreads Blog Twitch Pinterest Buy Oh wow this was both heartbreaking and hopeful and brutal I knew it was going to be an emotional one but afjdsakfld the ending basically had me feeling at least 4 things all at once which is RIDICULOUS as I am a Vulcan and emotion as bread It s full of art and abuse and hiding who you truly are and the absolute craving of love Someone get me a bucket I m cosplaying a waterfall It s about domestic violence and it s so so heartbreaking.Evan s mother basically hides her not named but very obvious mental illness behind her religion and uses it as an excuse to beat her wicked and sinful son It sit s so hard to readEvan is just so beaten down, on the inside as well He believes he s ugly and unworthy and evil and it s ALL he can do to try and be the perfect Greek son plus keep the fact that he s gay hidden And it s so sickening because everyone around him basically just stands back and pretends the abuse isn t happening I m really glad the book actually pointed at that It s unfair and hard to read but really really true to life Evan is such a gorgeous character though.He s an artist but has a really low opinion of his work EVAN YOU IS KIND, YOU IS SMART, YOU IS IMPORTANT He s the most precious cinnamon but also he breaks my heart with how, whenever someone is nice to him, he pushes them away It s SO good the book didn t just show the depth of physical abuse, but it actually outlined the effects too AND EVAN AND HENRY WHAT A GIFT.I do wish Henry had been a little deeper as a character I really don t feel we got to know him but I love how he and Evan were just BFFs and it was developing intoand how they learned to take care of each other and afldksad Also, epically, the romance wasn t a oh Henry s here to save him Henry is not the salvation EVAN is his own salvation Bless The story wasn t super fast, but in a good way We get to see Evan s life and I love that he and his dad went out for donuts although is dad just basically stood by when Evan got abused by his mum soooo 98% mad at him still And there is SO MUCH GREEK FOOD I may have eaten my paperback There s also a lot of religion and I don t think the book slams religion or anything, but it reminded me of Autoboyography in that it DID point out where religion often ignores fails condemns minorities Also this is a hella personal ownvoices story.There s an author s note in the back, and I think this is like super close to the author s own Greek coming out story It makes my heart very full when authors share such intimate pieces of themselves and just absolute RESPECT HERE My literal only critique is that it felt like a debut.Haha okay that was super specific, Cait, you bucket It s just a lot of the dialogue didn t feel natural and I feel it needed body language Like everyone went from 0 to 1000 REAL fast and I would ve liked indications of the mood from showing. The writing was good but sometimes the tension could ve been woven just a littttttle bit higher So little nitpicks And lmao I m a debut author so I know these feels and I know they get better with books ANYWAY I M A WRECK, HOW ARE YOU.This one is here to pack an emotional picnic and the actual pain of Evan s thoughts and experiences is absolutely well written I justttttt want to kidnap him and give him a good life It s not a pretty story and it is a needful story and my heart aches Signs of a good book MY FEELS HURT Maybe I m not so ugly after all Maybe no one is really ugly, and maybe no one has the right to call someone that or tell them that they are Maybe the only real ugliness is what lives inside some people. I spent the entire afternoon reading this and it really broke my heart This book is brutal and devastating This book is definitely not for everyone, and you can see that by looking through some of the other reviews, but it spoke to me and made me feel deeply.